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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

Last Updated: 21.06.2025 03:41

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

Why do people say African Americans act the way they do because they're poor, when the ones with money act the same?

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

What should I do to get over a relationship?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By taking turns talking.